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September 14th, 2009


07:56 pm - Illusions

One of the books that my father checked out from the library using my name was Illusions by Richard Bach. I learned that one pretty fast and it wasn’t as challenging as Ulysses was but I felt like since it was so easy it must not have meant so much. That’s obviously not true.

I breezed through that book not because it was easy but because I was a kid and I didn’t think anything it talked about was impossible. I wasn’t tainted or jaded as we become when we’re older and for me the idea of vaporizing clouds was an easy one to accept. Flying too for that matter.

Decades have passed since then and I’ve read that book plenty and I recently reread it just again. I was struck by how much I took the book to heart and how it absolutely shaped me as a person and defined a great deal about what I think and have thought since I was a small child.

I’m not sure if you’ve ever read anything by Richard Bach and I’m sure his work isn’t monumental literature but I am also sure that his work is important. To me it is, at least, and that’s enough. The opening passage from Illusions is just great and I loved the grease-stained pages reproduced for the thing and it looked like a real journal to me. The story of the little creatures that cling to the rocks is still an important idea that I’ve never not held in very high esteem and I figure it’s nice to post it here for you and for later.

“Once there lived a village of creatures along the bottom of a great crystal river. The current of the river swept silently over them all–young and old, rich and poor, good and evil, the current going its own way, knowing only its own crystal self.

Each creature in its own manner clung tightly to the twigs and rocks of the river bottom, for clinging was their way of life, and resisting the current what each had learned from birth. But one creature said at last, “I am tired of clinging. Though I cannot see it with my eyes, I trust that the current knows where it is going. I shall let go, and let it take me where it will. Clinging, I shall die of boredom.”

The other creatures laughed and said, “Fool! Let go, and that current you worship will throw you tumbled and smashed across the rocks and you will die quicker than boredom!” But the one heeded them not, and taking a breath did let go, and at once was tumbled and smashed by the current across the rocks.

Yet in time, as the creature refused to cling again, the current lifted him free from the bottom, and he was bruised and hurt no more. And the creatures downstream, to whom he was a stranger, cried, “See a miracle! A creature like ourselves, yet he flies! See the Messiah, come to save us all!”

And the one carried in the current said, “I am no more Messiah than you. The river delights to lift us free, if only we dare let go. Our true work is this voyage, this adventure.” But they cried the more, “Savior!” all the while clinging to the rocks, and when they looked again he was gone, and they were left alone making legends of a Savior.”

It’s simple, of course, and it’s nice and it’s important and I like it very much.

Originally published at [Posted over at smartwentcrazy.com/journal.]. You can comment here or there.


[1 flew east, one flew west | Go crazy.]

June 17th, 2009


07:38 pm - [The Distance Between Locations.]
It took 3 Years, 341 Days, 11 Hours and 10 Minutes for my $20 bill to reach Texas. Today, after all of that time, someone found it.

Today my great, good Bodhisattva friend Nes [and her perfectly wonderful husband Ed] has popped back into my life after at least a year.

[I will take these things as some sort of sign.]

{A follow-up post is just HERE if you're up for it.}
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[Go crazy.]

June 1st, 2009


07:35 am - Leshan Buddha Sketchbook Scan
I have this weird way of meditating sometimes and I tend to do these quick gesture drawings of the same subject over and over. I remember doing the same thing for scarab beetles, my wooden carved Weeping Buddha statue and Ganesha. I probably made well over 100 drawings of each of those things. Most recently I'm really into the Leshan Bodhisattva/Buddha statue. I'm just so overwhelmed by this statue and the sheer scope and scale and magnitude of it. It's so beautiful to me that it seems like it can't even really exist. It was started in the year 713 and it took about 90 years to complete.


[I'm cross posting this to [info]buddhists as well since that's where I was reminded of this.]
Current Location: 724
Current Mood: [mood icon] sleepy

[Go crazy.]

May 14th, 2009


10:34 pm - [Debbie Deb.]
Seriously, I'm back to being mildly obsessed with her and her music and I hadn't thought of her since I was in middle school or so. I hadn't thought of a lot of things since middle school and I'm sort of becoming overwhelmed all this past year or so, little by little mostly, by these fragmented, tiny reminders of a life that I lived back then.

One year I remember taking all of my birthday money and just pooling it all together with the hopes that I'd have the $129 I needed to buy the Best Gift Ever. I ended up with just enough for this perfect [holeemarymotherofgoditssofreakinawesome!] ghetto blaster radio. It was so perfect and so giant and it had dual cassette decks and more levers and knobs and switches and lights than I knew what to do with. But I could dub tapes on my own, that was for sure! [No factory recorded cassette was safe with me around and I'd grab whatever tape I could find and cover the side holes with scotch tape and record over whatever was on the thing to begin with.] And I could listen to everything I wanted to and I would. I'd just sit down there in my room listening to the radio, laying down directly in front of the thing on the floor. I remember being on my stomach with my arms propping up my head and my upward-facing palms cradling my jaw and my cheeks. I'd be motionless and silent and never breathing until I got lucky enough to depress the record button exactly at the most perfect moment. [Eventually I would have the most perfect everything tape.]

I'd wait for the radio commercials to be over and the DJ to stop talking and while I'm holding my finger on the [un]pause button in hopes of catching a song I wanted. I was this private, pre-teen, mixtape master. I'd zone out and listen to all sorts of music and I'd draw and read and imagine myself old enough to be able to have car keys and a $50 bill.

Car keys and $50 bills are still really big, symbolic things for me even today. They were two of the Main Things that I thought I would need to have in order to overcome almost any conceivable dfficulty I might face in my life. I knew this was true because I had worked it all out plenty of times in my head. I had made all sorts of crazy lists and charts and [I'm not kidding] I calculated the probability of everything that could possibly go wrong in a life and all of the things that could go right. And the results always seemed to come back to that lone, shining fact that car keys and a fifty could tilt a losing hand into a guaranteed winner. [Even today I get pretty fucking tickled when I'm slowed down in my life just enough to realize that I've got a set of car keys in one hand and a $50 bill in my pocket. I smile at myself just then and I make myself feel like I am an unexpected sweepstakes winner each time I think of itI'm glad that those things have grown together in my brain like they have. I'm glad that car keys and a $50 bill is always enough to send me walking away like I own the place and I can go like that for hours and hours. [Giant cranes.]

I realize now in looking back on it all that I was probably set entirley through with this underlying current of sadness and grief. I was just a small child when so much horrendous shit sort of just blindsided me and swallowed all of the things that I loved the most. I guess I was calculating how to not let something like that happen to me ever again and it's seriously pleasant to consider that the only magic wand or cloak of protection or secret formula in life I would ever need were the keys to a car and fifty-dollars. I guess that if I stopped distracting myself back then with things like music and reading and drawing and Space Camp and the Cold War and Dungeons and Dragons that I'd otherwise feel pretty fucking terrified by the idea of what life really was all about. As far as I knew there were absolute forces at work against you that were chomping hard away at you from afar. It took me years to not feel like I was being specifically singled out by some lesser demon who got big laughs from killing my family or having my bike be stolen.

I think it was around that time that I had some sort of emotional and spiritual moment of awakening that I'd probably call a satori right now but back then it freaked me out for a while. Like years even. So I'm all happy at school and I have my brand new radio zipped inside this giant duffle bag. It was so big that I couldn't even zip it closed all the way and I was trying to be secretive about the fact that I brought it to school to begin with. Kids soon found out I had it and they were chirping about how they wanted to hear it and I said that we could after school and that I had extra batteries too. As class was beginning to start I gather my composure and try not to look like I'm carrying contraband and I must have done this awful job becasue I knew the principal was walking down the hall. Towards me. I pretend to be busy getting a drink of water or something and the radio accidentally switches on in the bag. It's static at first and then you hear it loud enough to be heard in the other classrooms. It's Debbie Deb and one of her perfect break dancing songs and I sort of held myself in limbo there and I am struggling with this heavy, singing, freestyling, duffle bag slung over my right shoulder and I know I'm probably in big trouble. [I was recently in big trouble for something else. I forget what exactly?] And the radio just falls out of my hand and crashes to the floor exactly on the corner where it might do the perfect amount of damage. It went silent and I sort of didn't care at all. I didn't care about the principal or the teachers or anything else that once made me nervous. I just sort of gave up and I think it was a real satori because it was where I learned, for the first time for sure, that to really gain control over a situation you have to give up all control of it.

[I don't have any .mp3 files but in case you want to listen with me on Last.fm then Lookout Weekend and When I Hear Music were probably her most popular songs and I'm not kidding when I say that they are just as awesome now as they were back then.]
Current Mood: [mood icon] nostalgic
Current Music: [You know already, right?]

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August 4th, 2008


12:17 am - [Groundhog Day.]
The weekends usually go by strangely for me and I realize that I am caught up in the whole working from 9-6 every day tedium and when I do have free time for myself I end up feeling a little lost. I duck invitations to go for drinks and I pretend to not hear the door when someone stops over unexpectedly for a visit and I let my phone lose its charge so that way I'll have an excuse for later on. [It's ridiculous really.]

Today I spent some time cleaning the apartment as the neighbor is moving out and she had a yard sale over the weekend and she gave me some giant bookshelf. This is a massive bookshelf and owning such a piece of furniture requires a complete and total rethinking of how best to arrange the furniture. [So much depends on a red wheelbarrow, no?]

Hulu is the best friend of a person without a television and they just posted Groundhog Day. Everyone, of course, loves this movie and from the beginning I was a raving maniac for the thing since I had really started immersing myself heavily in Buddhist studies around the time it came out [mid-1990 or so, right?] and I learned so much from watching and re-watching this movie and considering all of the Buddhist implications it presented. [I'm sure I bothered and scared a few people with my rantings. I drank a lot back then too.]

A lot has been written since then about the Buddhist philosophies in the movie and most people already know about the main points people tend to make when comparing the two. I'll not get into it really but a nice enough article is here in case you care. [And I think you might.]

It's raining like crazy here in the desert and my street is like a river right now as it always is when it rains like this. My house smells nice and I feel really okay and my laundry is clean and the kitten is perfect and I look really wonderful after having shaved for the first time in nearly a month.

[You do know that I love you, right? Please say that you do.]
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June 2nd, 2008


08:53 pm - [Do You Believe In The Bible?]
Someone at work asked me about my mala the other day and that started a conversation about religion and after some talking about what Buddhism really is and what it really isn't I am asked, "Then what about Jesus? What about God?" As if to say that Jesus just has to fit into the whole scheme of things somehow and how does the whole Buddhism thing tie all of that together with Jesus. And I end up saying something about how I don't really believe in God and I don't believe in Jesus [as both are typically understood, and defined by, most Christians] and although I've often admitted for the sake of conversation that I somehow did believe that a guy named Jesus actually existed and walked the Earth and was pretty groovy and all [to paraphrase Eddie Izzard] but I didn't in fact believe that he was God or the Son of God or anything like that at all. [Now, truthfully, I'm not entirely certain or not if any actual guy named Jesus ever really even existed. I'm thinking lately that chances are there was no such person at all.]

And this girl that is sitting near enough to be listening in on the conversation actually made a very audible gasp when I said that. Like she was shocked that I could ever even say something like that. Or that she was seriously expecting some lightning bolt to come down and brain me right there on the spot. Or maybe she was just worried for me or something. I don't know. And believe me, I wasn't saying what I said in a confrontational or condescending way at all. [And maybe that was what was gasp-worthy.]

I don't want to get into the whole debate about people and their respective belief systems and I don't want to be outwardly offensive to people for believing in that Jesus is God [or for not believing in the Flying Spaghetti Monster] but I do find it tremendously fascinating how people are honestly able to believe certain things to be fundamentally and invariably true and real that seem patently absurd to others. I guess it's all a matter of perception and I do see how some aboriginal bushmen could come to believe that a Coca-Cola bottle was some object sent to Earth by spirits, evil or otherwise.

I almost cannot get enough of these people and I'm absorbed by their stories and points of view. Like the guy that took the time to build Jesus-is-the-Savior.com or some of the subjects in the awesome documentary Jesus Camp. I'm hiding the embedded video behind a cut ) since you may very well be sick of me and my goddam video posts but, seriously, this is an impressive documentary and if you've not seen it I think you'll like it. [[info]posteverything, have you been able to see this by now or not?] Although, I do need to say that when these beliefs become seriously harmful and damaging as they certainly are for some of the kids in the Jesus Camp documentary I think it's beyond awful. Not that I needed to say that, of course, but still.

[I think that I'm probably rambling now.]

One of my favorite artists ever is Howard Finster and his entire body of work centers around his core belief that Jesus is coming back and that we all better get our acts together before he does or there will be a very literal Hell to pay. I love him because I love his work and I always but I'm also sure that I love him additionally because of his crazy convictions. Or maybe for his ability to simply be able to believe in something so entirely that it becomes almost built-in. To believe in something like that so fully is impressive on some level. [And 'impressive' is a subjective word, to be sure.] Obsession with crazed ideas and imagery and beliefs is something that I guess I respond to in some way. [More like in a big way for some reason.] I love the work of Adolph Wölfli and Henry Darger and even, in some nostalgic and weird way, those J.T. Chick religious tracts.

Something that my friend [info]lisapink wrote to me today really struck me. She said that "there is a process you get to be witness to in an extreme environment that lends more information than one could retrieve on in research of self or stable environment." I agree completely. Wandering around for a while in extreme environments is revealing to say the least and you can learn so much from those places and for most of my life I've been a huge proponent of visiting those places as often as you can. [Go! Buy the ticket and take the ride. Go!] I guess that some people just go to those extreme environments and maybe like it there so much that they somehow just decide to stay there forever and throw away their maps and forget that they ever came from someplace else to begin with. Who knows? Maybe they just somehow forget that they can leave any time that they'd like.

[Now I'm rambling for sure and I know it. Sorry about that.]

But to answer that question about whether or not I believe in the Bible or not I respond here with what I invariably respond when people ask me that same question, "Hell yeah I believe in the Bible! I've seen one!" [This makes me feel all laughy every single time that I think of it.]

[13 flew over the cuckoo's nest. | Go crazy.]

May 31st, 2008


07:05 pm - [Crazy Wisdom.]
There has been some debate about moderating certain posts in the [info]buddhists community and I have watched as some of that debate unfolds and I've really been considering what my ultimate opinion of the whole thing is. Basically there are occasional posts by certain people that are only ever designed to be hurtful and mean. Some of them are not only merely comments in a thread to other posts but have recently taken the form of actual posts themselves solely designed to publicly bash someone else.

I do think that most of this stuff should be reserved for private email exchanges and to call someone else out in public like that [and then to call the same person a coward] is really a cowardly thing to do in itself. It's like publicly waving your finger at someone or calling them a name or denigrating them somehow in order gather some sort of mass momentum where you make yourself look like a hero for attacking someone that might so obviously deserve to be called out. In so blatantly pointing out someone else's faults we should realize that we are are ourselves behaving unmindfully and unskillfully. If I had such a deep-rooted issue with someone else I'd like to think that I'd try and settle it in a more private manner. This is more noble than publicly bashing someone else. [Regardless of whether such actions or viewpoints are justified.] When someone is behaving so unskillfully and so unmindfully to the point where it is obvious to everyone else but them I think that it's somehow an exercise in cowardice to single them out and attack them. It's too easy and it's like shooting fish in a barrel. Why bother? What's the point? Pick on someone your own size. [George W. Bush makes an easy target and is so obviously wrong that it is somehow pointless to even rant about it. It's somehow only self-serving to do so and people do it, I think, to show how much smarter they are than he is. You know what I mean?]

Still, I'm also reminded of the story about how the Buddha had an inept attendant that traveled with him. The attendant was always screwing up and botching up the meals and getting the appointments wrong and generally making a complete mess of everything. One day a group of monks approached the Buddha about this and asked why he tolerated such an imbecile to work for and with him. Why didn't he fire him and get a new, more competent, attendant? The Buddha responded that the man was not his attendant at all and that he was, in fact, his teacher.

I think that we should all allow people like that in our lives and people like that to exist here in this forum and everywhere else. Because they do exist in real life and they are everywhere and to censor them or moderate them is ultimately impossible anyway. We should only ever take the opportunity to learn how not to behave and we should never reward their negative behavior with attention. Especially negative attention.

To gain control of a situation you have to give up control of a situation. To try and force people into a set of rules and regulations is pointless and to paraphrase Gandhi, the worst sort of violence is where we try and impose our will onto someone else.

I guess my point in all of this is that we should just allow for everything to happen as it does and be sure to do our best to learn from it. I'm certain I've not fully explained myself to the degree that I'd have liked to but I hope that I made some sort of sense at least.

[I send you all love.]
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April 21st, 2008


08:31 am - [Siddhartha Says.]
I'm sure I've probably posted this before or something like it or I've at least mentioned it or whatever. [Maybe not.] Still, I've been thinking a lot about Siddhartha and his path towards enlightenment and I really have always found some great inspiration from this lovely little paragraph from Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse:
"How strange his life had been, he thought. He had wandered along strange paths.

As a boy I was occupied with the gods and sacrifices, as a youth with asceticism, with thinking and meditation. I was in search of Brahman and revered the eternal Atman. As a young man I was attracted to expiation. I lived in the woods, suffered heat and cold. I learned to fast, I learned to conquer my body. Then I discovered with wonder the teachings of the great Buddha. I felt knowledge and the unity of the world circulate in me like my own blood, but I also felt compelled to leave the Buddha and the great knowledge. I went and learned the pleasures of love from Kamala and business from Kamaswami. I hoarded money, I acquired a taste for rich food, I learned to stimulate my senses. I had to spend many years like that in order to lose my intelligence, to lose the power to think, to forget about the unity of things.

Is it not true, that slowly and through many deviations I changed from a man into a child? From a thinker into an ordinary person? And yet this path has been good and the bird in my breast has not died. But what a path it has been! I have had to experience so much stupidity, so many vices, so much error, so much nausea, disillusionment and sorrow, just in order to become a child again and begin anew.

But it was right that it should be so; my eyes and heart acclaim it. I had to experience despair, I had to sink to the greatest mental depths, to thoughts of suicide, in order to experience grace, to hear Om again, to sleep deeply again and to awaken refreshed again. I had to become a fool again in order to find Atman in myself. I had to sin in order to live again.

Whither will my path lead me? This path is stupid, it goes in spirals, perhaps in circles, but whichever way it goes, I will follow it.

He was aware of a great happiness mounting in him."


[I thought you'd really like it too.]

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March 25th, 2008


06:23 pm - [Watching Pema Chodron.]
A nice Bill Moyers interview with Pema Chodron.

[To remind myself.]
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March 13th, 2008


12:17 am - [The Three Marks of Existence.]
The Buddha described that everything in this physical world, including all mental activity and every psychological experience, can be marked by three characteristics -- suffering, impermanence, and egolessness. My great talk with [info]watery tonight reminded me of some of this and I just wanted to remind myself of it a little bit more.

The Three Marks of Existence by Pema Chödrön )

[I've spared you the length of this by tucking it away behind a cut.]
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June 21st, 2007


03:24 pm - [Choose Love.]
The other week or so I went on a float trip and we lazed about in inner tubes and floated down the Salt River. It was perfect. And I got sunburned. Really sunburned. Mostly on my belly since when I first put on sunblock I was wearing a wife-beater and later I took it off. I have had some of the most colorful tattoos ever for over a decade and I've learned to baby them and keep them safe. But my belly was entirely forgotten about.

Later that night I was spending the night at a friends and I was in agony. It hurt to move. And my friend offered to put some shea butter or something on me. I refused at first and then later I accepted her offer. And it was nice and it felt better and I freaked out. Internally only, really, but I wanted her to stop and I really wouldn't let her do it again. I slept on my side of the bed that night.

Later on I remembered something from my past that I had really forgotten about. And to tell you about this you should really know, if you don't already, that I was raised by bikers in a tattoo shop and lived above an 'adult book store'. The bulk of my family worked in the porn distribution and production industry. I saw adult movies in various stages every since I can remember. I recall going to work with my uncles [I had tons of uncles. Real family and extended family.] in the 'Adult Book Store' and after the place closed I would go in back to the coin operated peepshow booths and sweep up all of the lost quarters. These guys would come in and cash their paychecks there and get a good percentage of it in quarters to go back in the back and jack off. It's dark back there and with one or both hands busy it becomes tricky to navigate the quarter slots and naturally they'd drop plenty of them on the floor. And nobody in their right mind would want to grab around down there on the floor in the dark. So later, with all the house lights on, I would go back with a push broom and sweep up the quarters to the end of this step and into a bucket of bleach. And the next day I'd have like $30 in quarters for Pac-Man. I recall the times when the place would get raided I'd have to go next door to the tattoo shop and be babysat. And on and on.

One year, just a day before my birthday, I was severely sunburned. Bad. From playing outside on the Slip-n-Slide, I'm betting. And so I couldn't go to my own birthday party the next day. The plans had been made way in advance and the pizza joint with the animatronic animals was all booked and paid for and all sorts of people were coming from all over the place for the party. [Bikers do know how to have a good time. Seriously.] And the sad fucking fact was that I couldn't go to my own fucking birthday party. So I was left with a babysitter. [She was one of the 'book store girls'.] So I'm there at home. Sad as hell about the party and hurting from the sunburn and she is watching me just lay there in my Underoo underwear and she is sad for me and tries to make me feel better. She insists that I let her put some lotion on me and that she will be very careful and that it will feel better. So I let her and she does and I remember that day entirely. The pattern of the couch as I just sort of stared off into it while she moved her mouth down between my legs. [I still, to this day, don't let myself be in a womans mouth unless I completely trust her.]

I was just a small child and even then I recall feeling really sad for her. I knew that this was not what should have been happening and I also knew, as I know now, that this was just one of the only ways this woman knew to show love. I was talking about this to a therapist the other day and he asked me how the memory of that made me feel. And I told him that I was glad that I learned early on all of the sad and beautiful ways that people show love. And how sad it is for them that those are the only ways they know how to show love. And that that is even ever their idea of love.

I have forgiven her a long time ago. In my head I feel like I forgave her the moment it ever happened. And forgiveness does mean giving up all hope for a better past. And I have been thinking about forgiveness for quite some time now. It has been my mantra as I realize that when you really don't forgive yourself and forgive others for the crummy things that happen then you do, without question, murder all possibility for love. And I really want to love myself. And for the record I really think I finally am beginning to. Awful things happen to people every day. It's just something that happens. But love can happen too. And it does.

[And it does.]

And another way I'm learning to really forgive is to let go of the stories that I tell myself, and others, about the hurt that I have endured and the hurt that I have caused. I could say that a person was an evil person that had no regards for my feelings and behaved poorly in order to find a way to cause me suffering. I can go on and on about the ways that others, and myself, have behaved. And to quote the Buddha again, "He abused me, he beat me, he defeated me, he robbed me,"--in those who harbor such thoughts hatred will never cease." And the hatred will never cease if we hold onto those sentiments. I know that this is true. And so I tell myself another version of the story. I remind myself that we are, like all living beings, only ever hoping to alleviate our own suffering in order to find happiness. And sometimes we do or say things that we might not really mean or intend. More often than not the hurt that people cause us in unintentional. The hurt we cause others is unintentional. It's rare for people to really seek out to cause specific harm or hurt to a person. Hurt just happens. Everyone is really only ever trying their very best in any given moment to be happy.

I'm also figuring out that most every sort of conflict comes from one of three simple issues. Am I safe? Am I good? Am I loved? That's it. Every fight or conflict we get into and every upset we experience can be boiled down to at least one of those three things. If we feel unsafe or not good enough or unloved then we tend to grasp for anything that might allow us some form of relief. Johnny Rotten of all people said something like, "When people feel powerless they will do or say most anything in order to regain some sense of control or power." And that is the truth for sure. And we have all been there. And we have all caused hurt. And so, by default, don't you think it's a fine idea to offer up forgiveness?

I'm not sure about whether or not this makes any sense or not and if you can make sense of any of this rambling. I just have been thinking about all of this for so, so long and I wanted to work some of it out.

[I choose love.]
Current Music: The Cure - Close To Me (Closer Mix)

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May 18th, 2007


01:20 pm - [Strange Days.]
This afternoon I went back for the second appointment with the divorce lawyer to sign off on some consent decree saying I was okay with ending the thing as soon as possible. I had been trying to do this for months really but it's hard to do much of anything while you are in jail and being wrongfully accused of stealing $3.3 million. [Calm.] Yesterday the paperwork wasn't ready and today I keep my appointment to be met with a note saying come back in 30 minutes. I did. And then I had to go across the street to the Bank of America and have the paper notarized. Not sure why the lawyer couldn't do that but still. So I am sitting in the goddam Bank of America having my dissolution decree notarized and the guy doing it has a tie printed with $100 bills and on the muzak is The Righteous Brothers singing 'You've Lost That Loving Feeling' and there is a gang of mosquitoes buzzing around at this guys desk [he says they live in the fountain in the lobby] and we are both swatting them away and the whole moment just seems so goddam absurd. It is absurd. All of it.

During the 30 minutes wait for the lawyer I go over to the library and read some Thich Nhat Hanh and it calms me. I am reminded that tragedy comes from misunderstanding and that when I am unsure of a situation I should refrain from saying or doing anything that might cause further hurt or damage. I need to look deeply into my own life and see how I myself have been unskillful at times. How I have been the cause of hurt. How I have hurt people by my own unmindful habits. How other people are only ever seeking relief from their own suffering and that I cannot be truly happy as long as someone else is suffering.

I am glad I was allowed that 30 minutes to calm down and center myself. I was able to look at the whole procedure as just something that happened and I should try to always act in gratitude and compassion. To bow down and transmit my energy to everyone that I have ever loved. I think that it's true that we need to have enough courage to call our actions by their true names. We should ask ourselves, are we engaging in a lifestyle that touches the beauty and goodness within and around us, and that leads us in the direction of compassion and understanding for all living beings? Or are we simply seeking to escape from ourselves? It's pointless to focus on threats or negative possibilities and it's best to always ever only focus on the present moment. Choosing love at every turn. Searching constantly for ways to make everyone benefit from difficult situations. To be angry or blaming or punishing or demeaning in tone or action will never cause the hurt to cease.

Look at every moment in your life as a possibility for love and compassion. Distance and hurt are the enemies of love and compassion.

The night before the Buddha was enlightened he was attacked by Mara, the Tempter, the Evil One. Maya and his army of demons shot thousands of arrows at the Buddha but as the arrows neared him they turned into flowers. The power of compassion and understanding gives us the ability to do this. And I will try at every turn to make flowers from arrows.

I hope that everyone would choose to do the same.

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May 13th, 2007


11:53 am - [This Flower Is Scorched, This Film Is On.]
One of the fundamental aspects of meditation is that we need to make sure that we are not just simply trying to empty our minds. Thinking of 'nothing' or trying to only think 'happy thoughts' is a trap and it's best to just simply be 'aware'. To be mindful.

There is a Buddhist example about a honeyed razor and of how pleasurable it is to dip your tongue into a jar of honey. The taste and texture and the intimacy of such a moment has to be perfect. Or very close to it. And on the converse it could be easily understood that painful wouldn't begin to describe how awful it would be to drag your tongue across the edge of a razor. Hell, the thought alone of such a thing makes me cringe. One is pure pleasure and the other is pure pain. No way around that. But say you are dipping your tongue into a honey jar and underneath the honey is a razor and you do taste the honey but then you do cut your tongue. Do you not still feel the pleasure of the honey? Why is the pleasure of the honey so easily discarded and forgotten about as soon as we come in contact with the pain? Why do we put such an emphasis on hurt and pain and sorrow and loss? [And for that matter pleasure and joy and happiness. But that lesson is even harder to learn. For me at least.]

I'm sitting outside this morning on a grand front porch of a lovely home in Tucson. This is where I slept last night. The cool night air and the sounds of trains just near my head. I look up at the roof of the porch and watch a gecko climb in and out of a crack looking for bugs to eat. He changes positions a lot and I am amazed at his ability to cling to almost any surface. It's assumed that they have the ability to walk along the edge of a razor and not get cut. Same things as snails and slugs I guess. And this morning as I wake up I watch a lone hummingbird perch on a dead mesquite tree. He stared at me and then was gone.

I was sad that the gecko went back inside the crack in the house. I was sad that the hummingbird left. I was sad that the tree was dead and didn't have any flowers or fruit for the hummingbird. But how lucky it was for me to be able to watch a tiny gecko just directly above my head for over and hour. They are almost invisible, you know? And the hummingbird was perfect to wake up to and it would be selfish of me to want to hold him there for myself.

It's taking the 'good' with the 'bad' and finding happiness in them both. And in everything else.

I know for sure what Gandhi meant when he said, "Every night, when I go to sleep, I die. Every morning, when I wake up, I am reborn." This morning I am an entirely new person.

I hope you are well and I send you so much love.





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October 2nd, 2006


08:10 am - [Just Leave It.]
It is becoming increasingly hard to just stand still while feeling like I'm being constantly prodded or even occasionally just outright attacked on almost every level imaginable. I have tried at most every turn to take the higher ground and not get lost in some vacuum of awfulness that only results in a sickening spiral. When I was unable or simply unwilling to do choose a more noble path I feel like I almost immediately tried to make amends for whatever it was that I had said or done to cause any harm. I have become a notorious Remover of Journal Entries because of this and I'd wager that a good percentage of my latest posts might hold some record for the shortest shelf life ever. I have learned that it is surely beneficial to vent frustration or hurt in a written environment as opposed to some other more destructive avenues but anger is simply a biological function that only holds a benefit when used in a more immediate way and it becomes something that will invariably do very real harm when left alone for any amount of time.

When our bodies feel anger it is for a reason and is of Very Real Use when we need to establish boundaries or protect ourselves or our loved ones from harm and things like that. Our bodies are very kick-ass that way and when the occasion arises our bodies send out some of these fancy chemicals that get us amped up and in a state to deal with a serious problem that we have encountered. We go into this self-preservation mode and it's all about fight or flight. That is all. Since our bodies are really just designed ultimately save our lives then it has to be that simple, that black and white. When we are angry our bodies can only accept and allow one of those two choices. Just those two choices and nothing else beyond that. When you come face to face with, say, a mugger trying to take your And just now. Immediately. So when we hold onto that anger and let things that are in the past become a prologue for us then we become angry when reminded of some past pain or slight or outright wrong that we feel we have endured. So, like it's designed to do, our bodies send out more fancy chemicals to prepare for the only thing that it knows to do. Yup. Fight or flight. Because although it is one of the most amazing machines ever it is still pretty stupid on some levels and our body just cannot tell the difference between the anger that you are feeling right now and the anger that you are feeling because of the way your mother treated you as a kid. It's just not a part of its goddam job description, you see? It just knows that you are feeling the anger and that it needs to gear up to save your life and that means fight or flight. Knuckle up or get the fuck outta' there as fast as you can. Nothing in between. And this saved up anger is just fucking useless. It can serve to purpose other than to make us feel all pissed off. Our anger gets all dressed up and has no place to go and it gets frustrated. And that directionless frustration that stems from our orphaned anger turns against us. More harm than good, for sure.

So the hurt just has to be rectified or repaired or removed somehow. It has to be dealt with in some productive way unless that unaccounted for hurt grow up into anger that gets stored away only to jump out at some later time when, again, it only can do harm to ourselves. So with that in mind I do feel like I can honestly say that I have tried to hold myself accountable for my own faults and failures and that I have made every attempt to allow room for the same. I have made apologies and amends in every area of my life and I know that it has been helpful because I know that I feel better for it. I also know that part of this whole concept relies pretty heavily on the idea that any negative sentiments or actions or ideas need to be surgically removed or deflected before they hit the ground in the first place.

All of this hippie nonsense aside I know for certain that I have been trying very hard to hold myself to that standard in every area of my life. At most every turn I have let it be known to anyone that would ever listen that I do not want to add any further hurt to this already hurtful situation. It's pretty safe to say that even when I do get overcome by anger I don't let it stand for very long before I recognize it and try to set things right. I believe the same sentiment is ultimately shared by everyone. We all would just like to live in peace and nobody wants to get hurt or have their feelings trampled. Still, regardless of what a person says or not it is increasingly difficult to put faith in such an idea when there is obvious evidence to support the contrary. It is impossible to achieve a significant level of peace and happiness when negativity still remains or is, worse still, invited in again.

Just letting things go is tough and it takes a lot of work and time to get to that point. Communication is something that helps beyond hope. It can be the saving grace in a situation and it can possibly if not quickly and oftentimes easily deflect most any sort of hurt or misunderstanding. This is a tough thing to do, I know, and it does take a lot of work. Admitting your faults and asking for forgiveness and seeing the situation from all points of view is huge. And it becomes almost an impossible feat when one person is unable or unwilling to put forth the effort. [This can go many ways and I don't intend to apply any blame at all. I'm just acknowledging that unless everyone is on the same page the whole notion is just shot.] Getting to this point of real communication is a monumental effort for sure but the benefit, for me at least, far outweighs the risk. I have seen both sides to this idea and I know the same thing that Abraham Lincoln knew: "When I do good I feel good. When I do bad I feel bad. That is my religion," And the risk really only amounts to more badness and all the rest of the bullshit that comes bundled up with that so I know that the decision to truly abandon all of this Bad Craziness regardless of what may come is just the best option. And besides, we should try for that. We should be that brave. To just let go of the animosity and hatred that we might feel inside of our heart. It's easy to find something negative to hyper-focus on and I know that all you have to do is throw a rock in the air and it'll land on someone guilty of something. But to look beyond all of that and to strip away all of the sharp objects, so to speak, leaving nothing lay about that might cut into us and just get past it all to a place of real, true peace is probably the best bet all around. I never did, and still don't, see how slamming the door closed leaving hurt and anger and negativity behind is of any real benefit. Quite the contrary. It can only do us harm.

My own body is failing me at an alarmingly rapid pace and if I took the time to list the health problems that I am facing, both major and minor, I'd surely just fall the fuck out from it all. Adding that to my already heavy heart makes it even tougher to navigate through everything. I am too tired and I am too weary and I don't have the energy to continue to deflect or perpetuate anymore negativity. It is most assuredly killing me in every sense of the word and I cannot let it exist in my life at all.

Please, yes, this anger and hurt and upset. This ill-will and animosity and accusations. Any past pains or any remaining indications of injustice. Please, yes, let us truly just leave it.

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April 14th, 2006


05:15 am - [The Only Mantra I've Ever Really Known.]
When I was a very small child, just after my father left my kid sister and me behind for something better and never even looked back for a second; and just after my mother started to drink and drink and bury her brothers and lose her mother and raise two small children by herself with no more money or options in sight; and just after a pregnant woman got very scared and screamed for help when the current of a muddy Missouri river pulled her out too far and too fast, my Uncle Cornelius swam out hard towards her and she was safely on shore in no time but my Uncle Nonnie, the man that I am proud to say I am the very spit and image of, so much in fact that it sometimes makes me very nervous just to think about it, was promptly drowned in that very same water and his body lay dead and alone down there for over twenty-nine days before he was hooked out and buried in the ground; and it was just before Alphonsus Andrew McHenry III, my namesake who served on the USS Jason in the Navy and my cool, cool Uncle Andy the beaming father of my brand new cousin Andrew IV, was robbed at gunpoint and then told to lay face-down on the floor while a pillow was placed over the enviably curly hair on the back of his head and then a trigger was pulled and the casket was closed; just after my Grandmother Constance breathed in her very last labored breath of life as I stood eye-level and inches from her face at her bedside in the hospital room where I then breathed in that exact same breath that was just before inside of her lungs that I stood so straight and silent and still there and I held her hand so softly and so tightly and I just never, ever would let it go until they made me let go; and just after a true and good man named Harrison Lejeune Cunningham taught me how to paint and draw and why art was just simply sacred and why pancakes in giraffe shapes were the only true meal and why a horse in a game of chess could be plenty tough if only you just looked at it in the right way, my only hero ever, my Grandpa Harry, a man so filled with nothing but love and nothing but cancer, died in his sleep on his favorite M.C. Escher bed sheets and dreaming, no doubt, of Winslow Homer and mostly of me; just after all of this happened and death and dying seemed somehow normal, I was taken to a garage sale and allowed to choose a real book of my own. Not some kid book but a grown-up book. One with no pictures at all and only just words and words and words. And was one that I had picked out all by myself all for myself.

It was on that day, just after death seemed to sort-of surround my entire life and take away almost everyone that I have ever loved in less than a year, that I happened to choose a book on literature. A book that would become the first in a long line of books serving as a talisman, a very real talisman for me and one that I do not own now nor have I owned another since. Inside of this book was a printed list and the items on this list were labeled as being essential [and I looked it up then so I was sure that it meant I really did need these things] so I read that list maybe a million times or so. No kidding. I bet I’ve read those words a million times over by now if that's possible.

The list is exactly this:

Belief & Technique For Modern Prose by Jack Kerouac
List of Essentials:


1. Scribbled secret notebooks, and wild typewritten pages, for yr own joy
2. Submissive to everything, open, listening
3. Try never get drunk outside yr own house
4. Be in love with yr life
5. Something that you feel will find its own form
6. Be crazy dumbsaint of the mind
7. Blow as deep as you want to blow
8. Write what you want bottomless from bottom of the mind
9. The unspeakable visions of the individual
10. No time for poetry but exactly what is
11. Visionary tics shivering in the chest
12. In tranced fixation dreaming upon object before you
13. Remove literary, grammatical and syntactical inhibition
14. Like Proust be an old teahead of time
15. Telling the true story of the world in interior monolog
16. The jewel center of interest is the eye within the eye
17. Write in recollection and amazement for yourself
18. Work from pithy middle eye out, swimming in language sea
19. Accept loss forever
20. Believe in the holy contour of life
21. Struggle to sketch the flow that already exists intact in mind
22. Dont think of words when you stop but to see picture better
23. Keep track of every day the date emblazoned in yr morning
24. No fear or shame in the dignity of yr experience, language & knowledge
25. Write for the world to read and see yr exact pictures of it
26. Bookmovie is the movie in words, the visual American form
27. In praise of Character in the Bleak inhuman Loneliness
28. Composing wild, undisciplined, pure, coming in from under, crazier the better
29. You're a Genius all the time

I mean, there was a point there when I was nine years old or so and I was living inside of my own head and reading too much for a kid and I can easily see how I could think that some sort of angel must have been hanging out back then just in order to give me that book. I really don't know for sure. But it's possible. [If anything is possible.]
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March 29th, 2006


06:20 pm - [Since I Can Be Very Long-Winded And Never Know When To Stop.]
I offer this as an open response to a recent post by my friend [info]sissyhips:
One of my most important meditations is to try and draw my weeping Buddha. I've done maybe close to a thousand or so of these drawings and I am always, of course, unable to hold him perfectly on paper. And ordinarily I am entirely capable of drawing or painting almost anything I want. I’m not being boastful here. I just know that I’m pretty fortunate in that I’m very easily able to translate with my hands exactly the things that I see with my eyes. Or with my heart. I'm just really good at it is all and I always have been.

So it works out that I stare at my weeping Buddha a lot. I mean a lot. I carry him with me on airplanes and he has been on many dashboards of many cars in many states. Something that I also do is this sort of crazy spiritual isometric exercise where I’ll take the Buddha in my hands a just push in together against his back as hard as I can. Squeezing him with all of my might. Like I am trying to crush him flat like a milk carton between the opposing palms of my hands. I push my arms and hands and shoulders in tightly together against the back of this Buddha, holding the round-ish wooden carving up close to my chest, squeezing it with all that I’ve got until I’m just worn out and red-faced and near fainting. And then I just simply stop. I surrender. I exhale and then I let myself breathe.

Look, I know that I am not anywhere near strong enough to even think that I could crush him. I really don’t think that any human being could ever even do it with their bare hands. I’ve just always sort of felt like in this goofy and private thing of my own invention that I’m sort of dumping out my own sadness and sorrow and worry and all of that sort of thing right out onto the back of the Buddha. I’ve always felt like I was even encouraged or invited to do exactly that. Like his back was and is strong enough to shoulder the pain for and from every living soul and I should trust that enough to just let it go. And I’m absolutely not sure about any of it at all but I do know for a fact that I always do it. Every day or so probably. And it always makes me feel really, really good. I end up being all smiles and feeling something close to thankful but only better. [And I have some serious upper-body strength from it all too. You should see how strong my shoulders are.]

Although I use it a lot less frequently than I do any of the others, drawing him is absolutely one of my most important meditations and I know for certain that it’s been invaluable for me. This little exercise has become one of my most personal and sacred meditations. This is how I pray. After years and years of drawing him I have come to know the otherwise almost invisible intricacies of his every shape and contour and line. I'd bet I have the pattern of wood grain near memorized even. [Seriously. I bet I probably do.] But all of these little drawings I make of him, from every possible direction and angle in most every possible medium, are somehow all just not quite right. I’m just never satisfied with them and I know that I probably never will be. They are all still very nice in their own way and most are 'technically and/or artistically competent renderings'. They all are varied in their respective style and approach and every once in a while I do come very, very close to what I was trying for. I’ve made a few even that I could possibly allow myself to describe as being lovely. Yet they all invariably fail in some way and I am never entirely satisfied with my results.

I think that the Latin root word for sin translates roughly, if I am remembering things correctly, as ‘to miss the mark’. To fall just a bit short of your intended goal or target. So, of course, it’s not necessarily a bad thing or even an evil thing to sin. To be sure, it’s a very essential part of any life to miss the mark. And so I do just that while still giving it my best effort. I try and try but every time I miss the mark. Just a little left of the old bull’s-eye. Not quite it. Close but no cigar. And so on. And so what?

Yup. So what? I’m not perfect. I have limitations, both real and imagined and permanent and temporary, and yet I have never let any of that stop me from giving it a go. I will push forward like a goddam train. I’ll not hesitate to attempt most anything. Most anything ever. [Reminded of Kerouac and his “Intensity for the sake of intensity. Pursuit of the heightened moment.”]

Besides, if you think about it enough imperfection is actually perfection. It's perfect in that it’s one thing that we know of for certain that has such an infallible constancy and exists in an infinite perpetuity. Yeah, nobody’s perfect. Just ask Siddhartha himself. The first of the Four Noble Truths tells us what we already knew, what everybody knows, “Life is suffering.”

But I already know that I am flawed and that I'm fallible and I’m fine with that. And knowing that I am those things, to paraphrase Plato, somehow in turn makes me flawless and infallible. And that, of course, is a pretty good definition for perfection.

[I'll stop rambling now.]





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